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The frustrating thing isn't that she said no. I respect how she did it. It was very polite. What frustrated me is how it takes me so long to work up the guts to ask. I play the whole thing out in my mind as if asking someone out was like composing Beethoven's 5th Symphony. And then in 20 seconds I'm back to square one. Not to mention it never happened like I thought it would. The words I wanted to use never came out. I did ask but I had to clerify what I meant by, "Would you like to do something?" I feel so verbally and socially incompetent. Perhaps that's why I'm nearly 25 and I've only had 1 relationship; five, or maybe even six years ago.

Now I wonder if it's ok to ask someone else out. Are you considered a jerk and/or a slimeball for persuing a second interest, if a first doesn't pan out? And to make things interesting, most of the girls I know here in Atlanta are all close friends. So, if I ask someone else out later, she'll already know I asked out her friend not so long ago. What will they think of me then? I wish there was a rule book for asking girls out on a date. what to say, how long should you be friends before considering dating, is it ok to ask out her friend if she already said no...things like that.